One of the worst feelings about losing someone you used to be close to, is when you talk to them again, and they don’t even make an effort to keep the conversation going, and you feel like you’re talking to yourself, and you realize how much things have changed, and how much about them you don’t know, and you don’t even know what questions to ask because you just don’t know what’s going on in their life, and the best thing you can come up with are empty conversation fillers like “what’s up”, and you can’t even ask them about their life because you don’t know if you still have the right to ask them that, so you settle for the little things that they do tell you, and you make your own theories, and you convince yourself that you shouldn’t worry about their life because they clearly aren’t worried about yours, but you’re screaming inside because you want to tell them how much you miss them, and you want to ask them if they miss you, and whether it hurts them too that you have drifted apart, and you sit there listing all the reasons you think they won’t miss you, but some part of you is hoping that some part of them misses you, and it finally hits you that they don’t really care, and maybe its better to let things go and make a clean break rather than hanging on by a thread because its just too painful.
And, if you have reached the end of that sentence, you have my massive respect.
-The Girl Lost In The Bookstore
This I know very well. It’s that moment when you realize that the love of your life is not your love for life. One rebels at the thought until that one day comes.
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Yeah. We would do anything so as not to believe that.
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The heart and the mind have very different perspectives. That they would align from time to time would be great ๐
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True. ๐
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That sentence goes to the Guinness Book. Jokes apart, a point well made.
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Haha. Thank you. ๐
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Welcome. ๐
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Keep sharing your thoughts. You write well.
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Thank you so much, Amitav. ๐
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How sad the world is today.. and your post makes it sadder. I know what you mean. Have you ever been in such a situation the other way round? How did you justify it then? Did you see the hurt in the other person’s eye and not recognize it, until you remembered it now? I don’t know. I hope not.
The world is no place for romantics, no place for sentimentalists. Trust me, it is not. You might mistake this cyberspace and all its “families”, “Coteries”, “Friendships” for such, but it is not. You may hit a thousand likes with sentimental posts. You may even get new “friends”, but the truth is, their understanding will always remain skin-deep, superficial. Don’t mean to be cynical or discouraging. But deep within, you will know, that hollow homilies online mean nothing. Just my depressing thoughts ๐ sorry..
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I do know what you mean. And, I have been on the other side, too. But, that’s life, isn’t it? And, I know what you mean about online “friends.” Don’t worry, I’m someone who doesn’t trust people that easily. It often takes me years.
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๐ hahaha.. and I am excluded? hehe.. nope.. not me, I am the original Scarlet Pimpernel.. hahaha.. trust me.. etc.. (Famous last words)
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Hahaha!
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๐ thanks.
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and arrghh… I just realized.. what a title… arrghh… whoa… is this post a nice fellow? is HE?
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Hehehe.
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What? Menopause or the other gender? What? You did not explain…
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Oh god. *groans*
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Arey tubelight.. kai go? took a long time to figure it out, eh? ok ok.. strike that out..
a ton of feminists are going to land on me .. like a.. er.. what? ton of bricks? Hmm never mind.. as long as they fall on me, who cares if they are bricks..
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Hahaha! I may have to delete that comment, if you don’t want them to throw those bricks at you. xD
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arey nahin.. already badnaam.. so what do a few more bricks mean? and come to think of it.. at least I get to meet those bricks like that.. when they demand an explanation, there I am, in my Scarlet Pimpernel Avatar to er… sweep them.. away…
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You want to meet bricks, or the women throwing those bricks? xD
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Trust me, Miss Beauty Ali… whether they throw bricks or are themselves bricks.. does not matter.. never strike me.. inverted filmy phrase.. paththar jo ban gaye phool, jab fool pe phenka… ๐
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Hahahaha. I like that. xD And, never call me that again, please. ๐
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arey, … tum na… touchy touchy… Rupali….
Ach, ok, yeh guftagu nahin, poora silsila hoi gawa…
Hamar kauno aukaat naahi, boojhe ka? Bithua.. tuhar naam pe diya jalaayi dyen… humra kouno baaki nahin.. who tolerates all this ๐
Ok, ok.. serotonin levels receding now.. will slink back into my sheepish shell.. (That is a weird turtle, if you can imagine in.. a turtle with fur on top???)
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A turtle with fur on top? Hahaha!
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sheepish turtle.. huh…
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Hahaha! I’m supposed to be eating right now, but I’m type type typing away, and mom is screaming from inside, “I can hear you typing.” xD
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Hmmm, silent turtle now.. chalo bithua… kachua jalaao, tejaswi bhagaao.. bas, aarraam ba…
Now run along, kid.. eat… never forget to eat.. go.. now.. scat scam vamoose… pronto..
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I’m eating in between my replies. xD
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sneaky, sneaky… who will sudhro-fy you? no sudhaar ki naubat.. not at all.. incorrigible boley hain…
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Why you sound like my mom? ๐
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Wah!! Wah… I mean, really, Wah!!… pehle to main.. er.. kuch aur tha.. then something else.. now I am your mom??? Wah!! Kya izzat dee hai!!!
Patthar ke sanam, tujhe humney mohabbat ka khuda maana,
Badi bhool hui, arey humney, yeh kya samjha, yeh kya jaana..
And imagine that with a hero without a face.. er.. face behind hands.. big bloody palms (and mine are) covering a big face… (Manoj Kumar… Bharat Kumar)…
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Hahahaha!
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chalo eat.. don’t talk with your mouth full.. and this is your mama saying it.. sternly.. have I taught you nothing? Shame… eat first, then talk…
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Hahaha, okay mom. xD
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What is the emoticon for angry.. never used that bloody thing.. or a stern face.. whatever.. you get the point.. chal bhaag.. naunsanse!!
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Haha, okay, going ๐
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Hey, Rupali.. just kidding ok.. now don’t get all upset with me.. or senti… just a joke yaar… hopefully.. (Aur tu meri puraani.. er.. dushman se baat kar rahi hai, theek hai :P… but don’t gang up one me hahaha)…
Hey, kid.. take it easy.. always kidding.. you know me by now.. I hope you do… take care.. and good night.. hope the exams are going well.. do really well.. I know you will.. just blast those papers out of orbit.. ๐
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I know, I know. I’m not mad, chill. Exams khatam, today! ๐ *victory dance*
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Hope you did well.. (And I deeply think… anpadh ganwaar… hmmphh… arts, literature.. hmmpphh!!!) … If you need math tutions or.. even tips on “introduction to literary criticism” by Bennett and Royle, then too come to me ๐ hahaha Blank verse (which means mindless verse)… iambus, 10 am bus, pentameter, pentachlorophenol, Andrew Marvell and Metaphysical non-marvels, John Donne and Tejaswi Don’ts… well, by all means.. I am a good teacher.. I admit I am quirky.. but heck, a darn good teacher ๐
Drop in, tune out!!! (er.. the reverse of my age) and I might yet teach you a few things that you did not read about yet.. ๐ Hope you did well in the papers.. I cannot expect any less.. good on you, kid.. ๐
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I did do well. ๐ And, that’s a loooong comment! Phew!
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ok, just read some awesome(??!!) poetry ๐ ๐ ๐
And tumharey samajh mein nahein aayega..
So a translation.. another long comment.. so keep saying Phew!!!
Yeh kya tha jab tumne kaha ki kuch nahin tha
Shak hi to tha, bas utna hi tha, bas utna hi tha
Khair,
Yeh hawa
Yaad dilaati hain
Woh sukhoon ke pal
Jab humney maana
Ke aap humaare saath hain
Yeh panchi
Gaakar yaad dilaatey hain
Woh aazaadi
Jo humney paayi
Tumharey saath, tumse
Yeh nahar
Yaad dilaati hai garajke
Woh Taaqat
Jo kabhi hum-mein thi
Jab aap humaarey saath the
Yeh raastey
Yaad dilaatein hain
Woh manzilein
Jo kabhi humaarey khwabon ke manzar the
Jab aap humaare saath the
Aur ab
Mere gumshuda, mere unkahey yaar
Meri khamoshi
Tumhari dushman nikli
Itna ke
Tera pyar
Ab kahin aur gaya
Kisi aur ke taraf…
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The interpunctuation does very much carry the despair of the protagonist to the reader. I hope that protagonist is not you in this instance
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No, it’s not me. ๐
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Longest sentence I’ve ever read which had me screaming inside too but because i felt every bit of pain and exasparation and frustration and well written and i should stop now…
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Hahaha. You have my massive respect, Violet. *bows*
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Why do I get the feeling that that last sentence was just to shame some readers into going back and actually reading that post?
Maybe I’m just being cruel, sorry for that.
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Hahaha, no that wasn’t my intention. xD
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Gosh, I know this all to well….
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I suspect everyone does. ๐
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Every action in this universe teach us, let it go…
“เคเฅเคตเคจ เคเฅ เคนเคฐ เคเคเคจเคพ เคนเคฎเฅ เคเฅเฅเคจเฅ เคเฅ เคชเฅเคฐเฅเคฐเคฃเคพ เคฆเฅเคคเฅ เคนเฅ ”
Hope you understand.
Beautifully expressed feelings, felt the pain.
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That’s a beautiful quote. ๐ Thank you. Not inspired from real life, though. ๐
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๐ฆ Why don’t I ever come up with memorable/beautiful quotes? Never mind, at least the first half is always true.. you never forget them ๐
Ok, because my quotes always lead to fury.. so what.. at least you remember them forever..
bak rahaa hoon junoon mein kya kya kuch
kuch na samjhe khuda karey koi
(Ok, you have to admit now, that is a beautiful and apt quote hahaha.. even thought it was written by Ghalib)….
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Well, true. Atleast you can never forget them. You’ve got that going for you, which is good. xD
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If it was fiction then hats off to you
You are even a great writer then reader..
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Thank you so much. ๐
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After reading all the comments and replies above, I just forgot what the actual post I read ๐
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Haha! Is that a good thing or a bad thing? ๐
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Good or bad, I don’t know…it just happened, while I am relaxing from office work ๐
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Haha, okay.
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Yes!! Yes, this feeling, this phase is the next worse part; first being losing the person..
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Exactly! I swear, sometimes this part is even worse than losing that person.
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Kudos to you girl! And, yes! I completely agree with you. “C’est la vie” – perfect title to the post as well.
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Thank you, Soumya! ๐
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I know the feeling. It’s as if suddenly, you realize there is an entire different aspect of that person that you did not know of but you get to see it now. Once you see it, it hurts to hang on to the side of them you knew before because the boundaries that come with the side you see of them now make it difficult to assimilate that it is in fact the same person. Somehow, merging those two aspects of them together, hardly ever happens. Either, you accept who they are to you now, or you hang on to who they once were…. Both are just as difficult.
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Yeah, agreed. But, eventually, you have to accept who they are, and that they will never go back to being the person they were. I once read this, “when someone shows you their true colours, don’t try to repaint them.”
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I agree. ๐
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Awesome! I read it twice and i can relate to every single word you have written! And yes, I have reached the last sentence! So proud of myself ๐
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You should be. ๐ And, thank you. ๐
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Whoah. I know the feeling.
Longest sentence I’ve ever read so far! Goes to Guinness as what a comment says? Haha. Could be! ๐ You wrote it so well that it doesn’t really need a period. Such wits you have dear. ๐
Good job!
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Aww. ๐ Thank you, Melrice. ๐ *blushes*
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this sad but real ๐ sometimes we do this with others and sometimes we are on the receiver side ๐
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Yeah, that’s life I guess. *sad smile*
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Been through this and I know how you feel when you go through the phase..
Maybe the best thing to do is just to let go…
Beautifully written ๐
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Yeah, you have to accept it and move on. ๐ Thank you. ๐
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I reached the end of course, but don’t know what to say. So there!
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Haha, let’s give her a round of applause. xD
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Hmm..I lost reading the sentence midway ๐ and I did put some effort and read it again,only to successfully reach the end which made me realise,I have dealt with many such situations where The Other person used to mean a world to me and I being silly girl,always strongly believed that I am also the world to that other person but upon meeting them after a while,I have felt totally alienated from their lives which have hurt me a lot and since then ,I have made it a point not to make any one feel so ๐
Oops ,a comment without periods ๐
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Hahaha. ๐ I suspect everyone has felt that way at some point. Well, it’s their loss, right? *winks*
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I feel what you have written.. heart wenching </3
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Not inspired from my life, though.
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Oh, I’m glad you… you stopped when you… you did because I… I was running out of… of air.
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Hahaha. ๐
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Seriously, it’s kind of cool to go that long in a single sentence! Good on you for trying. ๐
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Thank you so much. *blushes*
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Brilliant sentence. Very true ๐
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Thank you, Miranda. ๐
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good read and kinda sad yet something that is acceptable…we all have been there,seen that and we even know it doesn’t work out if you give up!
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Thank you. ๐ Yeah, this is something I guess everyone has experienced.
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WOW! Massive respect to me for reaching the end and MASSIVE RESPECT to you for posting this and starting a plethora of emotions within me and making me feel things again and making me realize that words do hold an immense power within themselves ๐ Ab samaj me aya why you wanted me to read this ๐
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Hahaha! ๐ I’m amazing, aren’t I? *proud smile* I see what you did there in the comments. xD
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Hello Blogger Sister!
Iโm glad to inform you that you are nominated for the โSisterhood of the world blogger Awardโ
For more details, click here:https://jeanandtonicblog.wordpress.com/2015/09/30/34/
Congratulations ๐ and looking forward for your answers
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I think you have to ask your own ten questions di.
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I did ๐
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I guess one thing about letting go is placing a full stop. Until then it is all commas.
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True that.
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That was awwwweeeeeeessssoooommmmmmmeeeeeeeee!!!!!! I read it in one breath! Could relate completely!
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Thank you, Alisha! ๐ *huge grin*
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I know exactly how you feel. I was in a marriage for over five years and many-a-day went by where I wanted to scream my lungs out because we weren’t in communication with each other. Worse yet, neither one of us knew how to talk to each other. I look back and wonder why we ever got married. But thank you for his post. It seems it spoke to a huge number of people.
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Oh, I know the feeling of looking back and wondering why I was even friends with someone in the first place. No problem. ๐ I’m glad a lot of people could relate to it.
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Sometimes there’s this really blurry line between:
A. We’ve grown in different directions and we’re just not part of each other’s lives anymore and
B. I’m telling myself A because I don’t want to deal with the fact that A is in fact unilateral.
Sometimes it’s A, sometimes it’s B – it can be hard to distinguish.
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Ah, true. Sometimes when you talk to someone you used to be close to, you realize you have nothing to say to them anymore.
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